Q: My Son Blames Everyone But Himself …

by Hal | 4/16/2014 | 2 comments

The message started, “[I] desperately need advice …” … My almost six year old always blames me or someone else for his behavior. We are very big on teaching our children accountability. It can be small and big things. Yesterday, I told him he had to put on a coat to go outside. He preceded…
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April 14th, 2014

Goldtown Adventures by Susan K. Marlow – FREE!

by Hal and Melanie Young | 0 comments

TEMP Goldtown Adventures Giveaway RecOur children, boys and girls, have really enjoyed the books written by our friend, Susan K. Marlow. We were first introduced to her when she donated a short story in her Circle C Adventures series to a Facebook Party we had. Our daughter loved the story, so we decided to buy her the books for Christmas that year. They were a big hit, so when Susan asked us if we’d like to see her new series focusing on boys, we said, “Sure!”

The Goldtown Adventures follow Jem Coulter, a twelve year old boy, during the waning days of the California Gold Rush. Jem’s father is sheriff, which is a challenging job in the 1860s in the West! These books are full of just the kind of things boys love – excitement, adventure, doing real things, making do.

I recommend you read these, too. They’re a fast and easy read, so it won’t take long! They are wholesome, so it’s not that you need to worry about the content. Instead, there are some content elements that could spark some wonderful discussions with your boys. For example, in Tunnel of Gold, the Chinese immigrants in the town are treated differently than European immigrants (which is clearly shown as wrong). That’s a great opportunity to discuss racism and how God “has made from one blood every nation of men.” Other books give the opportunity to talk about being home alone, being responsible, how to handle a crisis when your parents aren’t around, and lots of other good topics.

Today is a fantastic day to start reading these, too, since the eBook versions of books 3 and 4 are FREE TODAY!!! CLICK HERE TO GRAB THEM NOW! If you don’t read this until later this week, they will only be $1.99 through April 18th, so get them anyway!

Moms ask us all the time how to get their boys to love reading. High interest, quick reads are the best way to do that. If you can’t get him to try on his own, read them aloud and stop at the most exciting part, telling him, “I’ve got to go take care of something, but it’s okay if you want to read ahead.” :-)  The best way to get a boy to love reading is to teach him to love stories. The best way to teach him to love stories is to expose him to stories he’s sure to love! The Goldtown Adventures are those kind of stories.

Hal and Melanie WinterYours in the Adventure,

Hal & Melanie

For more on motivating boys to do schoolwork, particularly in the nine to twelve year old range, join us for Boot Camp 9-12: Getting Geared Up for the Teen Years, our LIVE webinar series. Click here to find out more!

We received unsolicited free copies of this series of books, but our opinion is always our own.



April 11th, 2014

Spring Fever

by Hal and Melanie Young | 0 comments

A mom approached us at a conference, “I just can’t get my son to concentrate!” she said. We asked her to explain.

“Well, he does pretty well until about half-way through the morning, then he just loses focus! I tell him, ‘Look, we only have three more subjects! Buckle down and concentrate and we’ll be completely done with school by lunchtime.”

“How’s that working out?” one of us asked, feeling pretty sure what she was going to say.

“It’s NOT!!!! We can’t even finish ONE more subject!”

We hear that a lot this time of year.

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March 27th, 2014

“I Can’t Do Everything I’m Supposed to Do!”

by Hal and Melanie Young | 4 comments

A sweet mama came up to us in tears at last weekend’s conference. She wailed, “I can’t do everything I’m supposed to!”

I cant do everything

The question we wanted to ask her is “Who told you that you were supposed to do all that?”

Yeah, it’s true. There’s a lot you really are supposed to be doing – like discipling your family, keeping the kids safe and fed, and keeping the house somewhat hygienic. That is tough enough. It’s all we manage many days! What we’re concerned about, though, is the huge burden homeschooling parents are feeling to somehow do a whole lot more than that. Where do these burdens come from? Who told you that you were supposed to do all that?

The Teflon Teacher? Continue reading »

March 19th, 2014

Q: What Can I Do When We’re Always In The Car?

by Hal | 1 comment

We have a large family, and the dynamic is so very different. It seems like we’re spending most of the time getting the kids to their various activities and not a lot of coming together any more, aside from meals. 

WW-MinivanWe have been through this at different times ourselves, and frankly, it doesn’t take a large family to find yourself recruited as Mom’s Taxi Service or driving the Minivan Express. It’s a common problem in a restless, mobile society, but we who are trying to live with forethought and intentionality have to find an answer to that challenge.

The first question is always “What are we trying to accomplish here, and does this fit into our mission?” Sometimes we over-commit because we have many interests but a hard time saying no–to ourselves, or with our children. On the other hand, there may be a special opportunity or a needed activity which simply requires lots of time. Maybe a child has a special gift or talent and a limited chance to study with a particular teacher or coach, or they may need a class or activity as a prerequisite for something important in the future. The important thing is to be sure you’re not using too much time and energy for activities which don’t have much value, or distract you from more important goals. Continue reading »

March 13th, 2014

Four Famous Failures (That Should Change the Way We Parent)

by Hal and Melanie Young | 0 comments

Q. A mom came up to us at a conference where we’d been speaking about entrepreneurship, “My teenage son is constantly coming up with business ideas, but I’m afraid to let him try. What if he fails?”

We are not doing our boys a service to protect them from ever failing. When we do that, failure seems more frightening. That makes them wary of taking reasonable risks that are necessary to success and when they do experience failure it devastates them. Contrast that to these famous failures:

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March 5th, 2014

What Age Is Best For Boys To Start Sports?

by Hal | 0 comments

We live in North Carolina, just an hour and a half from Duke, UNC, and N.C. State. If I say “March,” you say, “Madness.” It’s time for the NCAA basketball playoffs, so it’s only seasonable to mix our metaphors and kick off our “Wondering Wednesdays” with a question we received a few days ago:

Q What age is best to start sportsQ. What age do you recommend is best for boys to start playing a sport?

This is a question with more layers than an onion! In fact, we devoted an entire chapter of Raising Real Men to the matter of competition. Continue reading »

February 26th, 2014

Avoiding the Mid-Morning Munchies

by Hal and Melanie Young | 56 comments

One thing that is pretty common across guys of all ages is that they love to eat! Moms tell us their boys eat breakfast, but are starving just a couple of hours later. I think they’re finding out just what we have: Carbs do not a good breakfast make for a growing boy!

Brown Bear standing up looking at Camera

When a boy’s starving too soon after breakfast, we usually hear that he’s had cereal with skim milk or fruit or bread that morning. Carbohydrates are the energy fuel for our bodies. Carbs are quickly digested and quickly converted into the glucose our cells need. That means his blood sugar goes up quickly which makes a lot of insulin release (insulin is the key that unlocks the cell door for glucose). That big insulin release leads to a blood sugar crash. Boom! He’s hungry again in a couple of hours after eating. Continue reading »

February 24th, 2014

Making Biblical Family Life Practical – Is There Such A Thing BIBLICALLY As Men’s Work, Women’s Work?

by Hal and Melanie Young | 0 comments

Tonight, on Making Biblical Family Life Practical, we’re discussing work! Is There Such A Thing BIBLICALLY As Men’s Work, Women’s Work? Is our view of what we should do colored more by the Bible or the 1950s? What can each member of the family do to keep the wheels turning (or the laundry washing)?

Tune in at 9pm Eastern to hear us LIVE (and ask questions by chat) or download later on our radio show’s site, Spreaker, or iTunes. BTW, if we had only 31 more followers on Spreaker we might be able to get the show on iHeartRadio!

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February 21st, 2014

What’s Your Son Got to Say Tonight?

by Hal and Melanie Young | 3 comments

Recently we asked our Facebook page what people wanted us to write about. Several asked “How can mothers have a good relationship with their sons?”

Our friends Marilyn and Rick Boyer helped us a lot with this topic in the articles they called Learning to Delight in Your Children. It helped us to clarify something we’ve been thinking for a long time. Take the time to read their whole series. It’s worth it.

It’s late at night, so we’ll keep it brief and focus on just one piece of the puzzle. Grab our book, if you want more on understanding your boys. Here goes:

Whats Your Son Got to Say Tonight

If you want your son to listen to you, listen to him. (tweet this)

Sounds easy, but it’s not Continue reading »

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