April 24th, 2014
So, a few months ago, some blogging friends asked us if we’d like to contribute a chapter about raising real men to the book The Pursuit of Motherhood. We are delighted to say that this great book is a part of something that is an incredible value…AND that we’ve sweetened the pot: You can get our award-winning books FREE (Scroll all the way to the bottom to find out how!)!
By popular demand, 100+ homemaking bloggers are bringing back The Ultimate Homemaking Bundle, and it’s new and better than ever! Continue reading »
April 23rd, 2014
I was so excited to see that Caroline Allen’s new Character Badges curriculum was a part of the Ultimate Homemaking Bundle! I’ve heard Caroline talking about it and I’ve been wanting to take a look at it.
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April 16th, 2014
The message started, “[I] desperately need advice …”
… My almost six year old always blames me or someone else for his behavior. We are very big on teaching our children accountability. It can be small and big things. Yesterday, I told him he had to put on a coat to go outside. He preceded to says “Okay, it’s your fault I am going to be hot.” I said, “Well, put on a coat or don’t go outside, your choice.” So the tears and disrespect and bad attitude started. And it was all my fault. And this lasted the rest of the day. Today it was because he had to clean up his toys. Is this normal behavior?
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April 14th, 2014
Our children, boys and girls, have really enjoyed the books written by our friend, Susan K. Marlow. We were first introduced to her when she donated a short story in her Circle C Adventures series to a Facebook Party we had. Our daughter loved the story, so we decided to buy her the books for Christmas that year. They were a big hit, so when Susan asked us if we’d like to see her new series focusing on boys, we said, “Sure!”
The Goldtown Adventures follow Jem Coulter, a twelve year old boy, during the waning days of the California Gold Rush. Jem’s father is sheriff, which is a challenging job in the 1860s in the West! These books are full of just the kind of things boys love – excitement, adventure, doing real things, making do.
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April 11th, 2014
A mom approached us at a conference, “I just can’t get my son to concentrate!” she said. We asked her to explain.
“Well, he does pretty well until about half-way through the morning, then he just loses focus! I tell him, ‘Look, we only have three more subjects! Buckle down and concentrate and we’ll be completely done with school by lunchtime.”
“How’s that working out?” one of us asked, feeling pretty sure what she was going to say.
“It’s NOT!!!! We can’t even finish ONE more subject!”
We hear that a lot this time of year.
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March 27th, 2014
A sweet mama came up to us in tears at last weekend’s conference. She wailed, “I can’t do everything I’m supposed to!”
The question we wanted to ask her is “Who told you that you were supposed to do all that?”
Yeah, it’s true. There’s a lot you really are supposed to be doing – like discipling your family, keeping the kids safe and fed, and keeping the house somewhat hygienic. That is tough enough. It’s all we manage many days! What we’re concerned about, though, is the huge burden homeschooling parents are feeling to somehow do a whole lot more than that. Where do these burdens come from? Who told you that you were supposed to do all that?
The Teflon Teacher? Continue reading »
March 19th, 2014
We have a large family, and the dynamic is so very different. It seems like we’re spending most of the time getting the kids to their various activities and not a lot of coming together any more, aside from meals.
We have been through this at different times ourselves, and frankly, it doesn’t take a large family to find yourself recruited as Mom’s Taxi Service or driving the Minivan Express. It’s a common problem in a restless, mobile society, but we who are trying to live with forethought and intentionality have to find an answer to that challenge.
The first question is always “What are we trying to accomplish here, and does this fit into our mission?” Sometimes we over-commit because we have many interests but a hard time saying no–to ourselves, or with our children. On the other hand, there may be a special opportunity or a needed activity which simply requires lots of time. Maybe a child has a special gift or talent and a limited chance to study with a particular teacher or coach, or they may need a class or activity as a prerequisite for something important in the future. The important thing is to be sure you’re not using too much time and energy for activities which don’t have much value, or distract you from more important goals. Continue reading »
March 13th, 2014
Q. A mom came up to us at a conference where we’d been speaking about entrepreneurship, “My teenage son is constantly coming up with business ideas, but I’m afraid to let him try. What if he fails?”
We are not doing our boys a service to protect them from ever failing. When we do that, failure seems more frightening. That makes them wary of taking reasonable risks that are necessary to success and when they do experience failure it devastates them. Contrast that to these famous failures:
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March 5th, 2014
We live in North Carolina, just an hour and a half from Duke, UNC, and N.C. State. If I say “March,” you say, “Madness.” It’s time for the NCAA basketball playoffs, so it’s only seasonable to mix our metaphors and kick off our “Wondering Wednesdays” with a question we received a few days ago:
Q. What age do you recommend is best for boys to start playing a sport?
This is a question with more layers than an onion! In fact, we devoted an entire chapter of Raising Real Men to the matter of competition. Continue reading »