It’s a Shame…

Wednesday, January 27th, 2016

We’ve all seen them: the viral videos of parents smashing their kids’ computers or sharing their stupid mistakes. Some of them are pretty funny and most of us have been tempted to do something outrageous some time or another, but is this really a good idea? Public shame has been a form of punishment throughout…
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Star Wars: The Force Awakens Review and Discussion Guide

Friday, December 18th, 2015

Let me be upfront. I love Star Wars. The original Star Wars was released when I was a young teen and I think I saw it 5 or 6 times the first month. It was a grand story of nobility and sacrifice, knights and princesses, tyranny and resistance, epic battles and spaceships. Spaceships! It was…
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Talking to Your Kids (All of Them) About Choking

Tuesday, November 10th, 2015

A dear sweet friend of mine nearly lost her son the other night. Just a few seconds, maybe a minute more and she’d be planning a funeral right now. Here’s her story: Sam, our fourteen-year-old, came stumbling into my bedroom on Saturday night at ten, crying pretty hard and saying, “Mom, I don’t know what happened,…
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Q&A: My 16yo Won’t Grow Up! How Can I Get Him to be Responsible?

Friday, October 9th, 2015

A mom asks, “My 16yo is driving me crazy! He won’t do his schoolwork. He argues with everything we say. He blames someone else for everything that happens. He’s not obeying and he’s disrespectful. If we say he can’t use the internet, he does anyway and says we don’t trust him. He just won’t grow…
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Q&A: What’s Wrong with my 17yo?

Saturday, October 3rd, 2015

A reader asks, ” I have a seventeen year old boy . He has always been brilliant at school – loved school, loved life. Two years ago he began a downward spiral, he has bashed myself and his sister a number of times. He refuses to go to school. He wants to stay up all…
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A Question About Fifty Shades of Grey

Friday, February 13th, 2015

This morning a friend asked, “Do you think I should watch Fifty Shades of Grey with my teen and talk about it?”  We’re not as strict on media as some are. We think there’s some value in watching things you don’t agree with and analyzing and discussing them with your teens. Sometimes, though, there’s more…
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Four Famous Failures (That Should Change the Way We Parent)

Thursday, March 13th, 2014

Q. A mom came up to us at a conference where we’d been speaking about entrepreneurship, “My teenage son is constantly coming up with business ideas, but I’m afraid to let him try. What if he fails?” We are not doing our boys a service to protect them from ever failing. When we do that,…
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Bring Back Work Week: The Pleasure of Accomplishment

Friday, September 7th, 2012

A few weeks ago, our son Matt came in and said, “Mom, you know it makes a guy feel good to take responsibility – to meet a need, to do something that matters. I had no idea how much fun it could be to be the one to take care of something.” I think there…
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Got a Son Who’s 9 to 12 Years Old?

Wednesday, November 16th, 2011

When our children were all little and Melanie was feeling overwhelmed, most people responded, “You just wait ’til they’re teenagers! You think it’s hard now?” Well, thank you, that’s very encouraging. Does it have to be that way? Does life with a teen have to be more difficult than life with an untrained toddler with…
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Hal & Melanie at the Schoolhouse Expo Talking to Teens & Their Families

Friday, August 20th, 2010

UPDATE: Congratulations to Mandy Gillespie who won volumes 1 and 2 of our new Hero Tales series and apheartsong who won a free ticket to the Schoolhouse Expo! Psychologists Joseph and Claudia Allen say that low expectations have undermined the transition from childhood to adulthood, and twenty-somethings are still trying to figure out what their…
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