Boy's Purity

Staying Pure in Engagement
Someone recently asked, Now that we're engaged, it's increasingly hard to stay pure. I mean, we'll be married soon, right? I know it's wrong, but it doesn't seem as big a deal now that it's just a matter of weeks or months. Can you help us think about this the right way? We've been there. The…
Five Things You Need to Know About Your Boys & Internet Porn
"I don't know who else to talk to. My little boy has been watching horrible stuff. I don't know what to do." There are five things we wish all parents knew about internet porn. If they did, there would probably be a lot fewer of these heartbreaking messages for us to answer! (Note, this post…
Ten Ways to Keep Your Family From Being Devastated by Porn and Predators
We got another one last night. My heart sank as the sweet mama sobbed out her story. Please, Lord, not another one. Please no. It was, though. Another family crashing into the morass of sexual sin, completely unexpectedly. It's happening all the time these days. Moms and Dads telling us through tears about their son's…
Fifty Shades Darker in Christian Marriage
Warning: Adult subject matter, may be disturbing to abuse victims. Adrienne* shook with heavy, harsh sobs. Then her eyes flashed with anger, "I couldn't believe he would do that to me!" She described haltingly how her husband had forced her into a sexual act that she was ashamed to even talk about. Then she began to…
When You’re Worried Your Son is Going to Go Too Far
A mom asked, We did the hard press for courtship/dating with a purpose. And it worked - sorta. My son is head over heels for his girlfriend. Sex is coming. It just is. They still say they want to wait. They aren't rebelling by going to her apartment, but he's in a battle between his hormones/desires and…
What to Do When You Find Out Your Child’s Been Watching Porn
What should you do? Well, besides cry? It's devastating to realize that the child you've prayed for, taught the Scriptures to, and tried so hard to protect has been looking at degrading and dehumanizing filth. You're not alone. Nearly all boys are exposed to porn before they are eighteen and the vast majority of them,…
Ten Danger Signs Your Son is Watching Porn
We get messages all the time from parents who've found out their son is watching porn. In every one, the parents express shock. They had no idea, no clue that this was going on in their house, so they just aren't prepared to deal with it. When we talk to them, though, the signs have…
Ten Practical Ways to Keep Kids Safe From Predators
The past couple of weeks, we've been talking to and praying for friends who've been dealing with a great grief. Their young son was molested while he was visiting with his beloved grandparents. It was a young adult, a trusted friend of the family, who victimized their child. The parents are heartbroken. Sadly, this is happening more…
Dating and Courtship: On the Other Hand
A while back, we were in a group of homeschoolers having a spirited discussion over our blog post, It's Just Coffee. Suddenly, Melanie noticed that the woman arguing most strenuously against it was wearing a ring on her left hand. Melanie thought, Oh, maybe she found a mate through a very regulated model of courtship. Maybe that's…
Five Reasons (Besides Porn) That Teens Need Accountability on Their Devices
For most of us, the primary reason we install accountability and filtering software on our computer and devices is pornography – how can we protect our kids from it? What can we do to keep ourselves out of trouble? Is there someone in the family with an undetected problem? But not every device problem deals…