marriage

How My Old Band Director Influences My Family Life Today
Sometimes you get a life-changing lesson from an unexpected source. My 8th-grade band director taught me something really important about relationships. Last week, my old band director passed away. Pat Wylie (it’s still hard to think of him by his first name) was a major part of my young life, for two years in middle…
Hard Conversations
Hal had a friend in college that he’d known for many years. Like good friends do, they shared a lot of interests, opinions, and experiences in common. Yet an unexpected break happened – the friend made some lifestyle changes that Hal was uncomfortable about. At the time, they seemed like a really big deal, and…
Lovebirdseed
A new project from Hal and Melanie
  The Bible speaks about marriage as a partnership, like two horses pulling in harness together. It's a good image of shared purpose and common goals - but we need to be sure we spend time face-to-face as well as shoulder-to-shoulder! Isn't it time to really look at one another and think about yourselves as…
Can We Get Your Vote for
My Beloved and My Friend?
Our book on marriage, My Beloved and My Friend: How To Be Married To Your Best Friend Without Changing Spouses, is in the running for the Christian Small Publishers "Book of the Year" Award. This award is based on votes from publishers, booksellers, readers - anyone interested in promoting books from independent Christian publishers - and…
A Question About Fifty Shades of Grey
This morning a friend asked, "Do you think I should watch Fifty Shades of Grey with my teen and talk about it?"  We're not as strict on media as some are. We think there's some value in watching things you don't agree with and analyzing and discussing them with your teens. Sometimes, though, there's more…
What in the World is Courtship?
Nearly thirty years ago, we had what was in many ways an unusual relationship compared to many of our friends. For us, it grew rather naturally from a friendship between two people who were rather analytical about things—even affairs of the heart. But we’re getting ahead of our story. When it comes to marriage or…
Dating/Courtship: Don’t Shut the Door Too Soon!
Lately, I've been noticing a phenomenon among our acquaintances that really concerns me. Single ladies, we don't often address you on these pages, but this one's for you. Most of the young adults we know are very intentional about finding a mate in the right way. They are committed to waiting until they are ready…
Another Piece of the Puzzle?
We've been talking lately about the growing number of late-twenty-somethings we know who would like to be married, but there isn't even a hint on the horizon. What's up?  One article we ran across last week thinks the culture is to blame. The author suggests that women just aren't women any more and men don't…
A Good Thing
When we were working on our workshop on purity for boys, we were surprised at some of the research we found that says that the average age of first (and hopefully only!) marriage has gone up drastically in the last generation. For men, the median age has gone up from 22 or 23 to 28…
An Open Letter to Parents Considering Divorce
Here's a letter I posted in response to a homeschooling mother who told an email list that she was thinking of divorcing her husband because she didn't love him anymore and they were not getting along at all. I hope if you are thinking of divorcing your mate, that you will read this very carefully…