How to Be a Father

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Q&A How do you deal with scared kids at night?
A mom in one of my Facebook groups asked, How do you deal with scared kids at night? my child comes into our room nearly every night terrified - scared of the dark, scared of nightmares, all kinds of things. People tell me to put him in bed and spank him if he gets out,…
Ten Ways to Keep Your Family From Being Devastated by Porn and Predators
We got another one last night. My heart sank as the sweet mama sobbed out her story. Please, Lord, not another one. Please no. It was, though. Another family crashing into the morass of sexual sin, completely unexpectedly. It's happening all the time these days. Moms and Dads telling us through tears about their son's…
When a Child is Talking about Death
My six year old is constantly talking about death and how he'll die soon and it worries me. He doesn't seem afraid of death; he says he's going to heaven. I'm concerned, though. What do I do? I would sit down with him and try to figure out what's on his mind. You never know…
Dear Mama to Boys
I'll never forget the first time I went out shopping after our third son was born. We were in the shoe store when an elderly couple approached me. "Is it a girl???" they asked, gesturing towards the stroller. "No, this is our third son," I said with pride. "Oh, honey! I bet you were just…
What to Do When You Find Out Your Child’s Been Watching Porn
What should you do? Well, besides cry? It's devastating to realize that the child you've prayed for, taught the Scriptures to, and tried so hard to protect has been looking at degrading and dehumanizing filth. You're not alone. Nearly all boys are exposed to porn before they are eighteen and the vast majority of them,…
Ten Danger Signs Your Son is Watching Porn
We get messages all the time from parents who've found out their son is watching porn. In every one, the parents express shock. They had no idea, no clue that this was going on in their house, so they just aren't prepared to deal with it. When we talk to them, though, the signs have…
Ten Practical Ways to Keep Kids Safe From Predators
The past couple of weeks, we've been talking to and praying for friends who've been dealing with a great grief. Their young son was molested while he was visiting with his beloved grandparents. It was a young adult, a trusted friend of the family, who victimized their child. The parents are heartbroken. Sadly, this is happening more…
A Case for Grace for Grandparents
Several times recently, friends have told us that they are just done with their parents. They've had repeated disagreements and arguments over the children and their family's lifestyle choices. They're so annoyed with the older generation, they just want to back out of the relationship. This is kind of a shock to us. We grew up…
101 Great Answers for “I’m Bored” This Summer
Kids these days are so over-programmed it's ridiculous. They go to this camp and that one, moms run them to classes and clubs. When we were kids we made our own fun and it really was fun! Here are some of the things we used to do that you can suggest to your children when…
When Do You Step In When Boys Are Wrestling?
A reader asks, "When do you step in when boys are wrestling? My 10 & 8 year old boys are constantly in some form of a challenge on the trampoline, in the yard, on the lake, in the house, etc." The way boys are always wrestling can be pretty frustrating, especially for moms. It's hard…