courtship

She Said, “I Won’t Let my Daughter Marry a Guy Who Has Ever Seen Porn!”
Be sure you ask the right questions – and set the right expectations Our friend was adamant. “I would never allow my daughter to marry a guy who has looked at porn.” She’s right to be concerned. It’s a sin and affront to God to look at pornography. It causes physical changes in the user’s…
Dating and Courtship: On the Other Hand
A while back, we were in a group of homeschoolers having a spirited discussion over our blog post, It's Just Coffee. Suddenly, Melanie noticed that the woman arguing most strenuously against it was wearing a ring on her left hand. Melanie thought, Oh, maybe she found a mate through a very regulated model of courtship. Maybe that's…
Teen Romance: Reality Check! (2)
When a 5-year-old announces he wants to marry the little girl next door, you might say (sweetly), “Well, maybe one day, Sport, but you've got to grow up and get a job first.” Ditto for your pre-teen. But when Sport is 17 and he can smell legal adulthood just a few calendar pages away, a…
Q&A: How Are We Supposed to Interact With Our Son’s Girlfriend?
A reader asks, "How and when do you embrace the special girl in your adult son's life? My son is 20 and this is his first "girlfriend". They've been developing this relationship for 4 months and it seems serious. We have her over periodically but don't know when to take that next step." (more…)
Dating and Courtship: Honoring Your Parents
We've said some critical things about the way the courtship model is sometimes carried out, but one really good thing that has come out of it is the recognition that courtship and marriage involves more than two people, it involves two families. We're always amused when we hear someone say, "I'm marrying her, not her family," because…
What in the World is Courtship?
Nearly thirty years ago, we had what was in many ways an unusual relationship compared to many of our friends. For us, it grew rather naturally from a friendship between two people who were rather analytical about things—even affairs of the heart. But we’re getting ahead of our story. When it comes to marriage or…
Dating/Courtship: Don’t Shut the Door Too Soon!
Lately, I've been noticing a phenomenon among our acquaintances that really concerns me. Single ladies, we don't often address you on these pages, but this one's for you. Most of the young adults we know are very intentional about finding a mate in the right way. They are committed to waiting until they are ready…