Resources for Teaching Sons About Sexuality and Purity
Sexuality is not a subject most of us want to think about with our sons. We just want to pretend everything’s going to be alright. Read through the resources below and you’ll see that isn’t a safe assumption any more, if it ever was. It’s not easy talking to your sons about sexuality, but it is critical. You need to be the “firstest with the mostest” so they don’t seek information from friends, or worse yet, Google. Here are resources we’ve put together to help you in the fight to keep your boys on the right road in this area of life. (BTW, some of the links below are affiliate links. Thanks for your help!)
Yours in the battle,
Hal & Melanie
We have written a new book on sexuality for young men themselves! Give your guys a Biblical context for God’s gift of sexuality. Start the conversation. We discuss the details of how it all works, how the enemy tries to pervert God’s design, how to avoid temptation, how to recover if you give in to temptation, and how to have a healthy relationship with the opposite sex.
Download our workshop on purity for boys, Shining Armor: Your Son’s Battle for Purity. It will help you learn how to talk to your son about all of these things and how to handle it if you’ve found out he’s fallen. One of our most popular workshops. For Boot Camp 9-12 alumni: This is very similar to class 3 of Boot Camp 9-12 and a great way to pass that info on to your friends.
Covenant Eyes. Get it. Put it on all your devices. Honestly, don’t put this off. You wouldn’t drop your children off in Shanghai or San Francisco to find their way around, would you? Yet, pretty much everything in those cities can be found online. We’ve used it ourselves for many years. Use our link to sign up and support this ministry.
Internet Safety and Accountability: Visiting the Big City Here’s our review of Covenant Eyes, along with a sample report, so you can see what it does.
Covenant Eyes: There When You’re Not. How to set up Covenant Eyes and protect your children appropriately for their ages.
From Our Blog:
|Ten Danger Signs That Your Son is Watching Porn makes sure you don’t miss signs that your son is in trouble.|
|Eight Steps to Take When You Find Our Your Child’s Been Watching Porn gives you an action plan when you find out what you never wanted to hear.|
|Ten Practical Ways to Protect Kids from Predators gives you some solid advice about how to keep your son from becoming a victim.|
|When You’re Worried Your Son is Going to Go Too Far helps you know what to say when your son needs a reality check about the consequences of skating too close to the edge.|
|Ten Ways to Keep Your Family From Being Devastated by Porn and Predators gives real practical advice you can use to protect your children.|
|Awkward! How (and Why) to Have a Conversation About Sexting with Your Kids gives practical advice for dealing with these things we wish we didn’t have to talk about!|
|Five Things You Need to Know About Your Boys & Internet Porn is a short primer on what’s going on that you need to know about.|
|Grand Theft Auto V and Hoods In Training talks about the new video games and how they can affect our children’s real lives.|
|Would You Leave Heroin Around the House? shares the latest research about internet porn addiction.|
|Oh Murder! What Parents Need to Know About Teen Brains and the New Games gives you a heads up about games that are intentionally addictive.|
|Miley Cyrus, MTV, and Why It Matters (A Lot) to Christian Families helps parents to understand what’s behind the raunchy direction our culture is headed.|
When the Red Light District Is in Your Living Room is a wake up call to parents to help them understand the risks to their children.
Two Rules Would Have Saved Paterno looks at a heart-breaking news story and makes some practical application for our own lives.
From Our Podcast:
New Electronics and Temptation was the topic of this episode of Making Biblical Family Life Practical, where we are discussed all those new electronics that families got for Christmas. How can you make sure these are a positive influence in their life, not a dangerous one?
From Our Facebook Page:
Playstation 4 and a New Live Porn Danger Learn to lock down your Playstation so it won’t show user generated pictures and video by clicking here.
Pornography and Christian Boys was the topic of this interview we did with Kevin Swanson of Generations Radio.
Life Before Birth by Gary Parker is our go-to book for talking about where babies come from with our children. It has pictures simple enough for young ones and text complex enough for the 9-11 year old crowd. Really love it.
Marriage Retreat Online, the only live marriage retreat that you don’t need to get a sitter for! Internet porn is one of the topics we cover.
Statistics on internet purity (rather, the lack thereof)
Boot Camp 9-12: Getting Geared Up for the Teen Years, a live interactive webinar series for parents of nine to twelve year old boys. It’s one of our most popular resources, with hundreds of alumni. If you’ve attended, why not tell your friends about it? This remains the number one age people ask us questions about.